The past few weeks we have been talking about waiting on God for things that our hearts truly desire. I do believe that God wants to give us the desires of our hearts. In fact, Psalm 37:4 states: “Delight yourself in the LORD; And He will give you the desires of your heart.” It’s just that sometimes the plans we so often map out in our minds don’t compare to the plans God has for us. But, that doesn’t make the time of waiting any easier so I have decided to share some practical steps to make this time just a little more bearable.
- Stop comparing. In order to find true joy in life, you have to take your eyes off of everyone else and refocus them on Jesus. Everyone has heard the quote “comparison is the thief of joy,” right? Well, it’s not just the thief of joy. I believe that this is how Satan works to build negative emotions in your heart and to take your eyes off of God. I reminded you last week that God does not give blessings based on our level of holiness. Just because you look around and everyone else seems to have what you want doesn’t make you any less than. Being 29, I have very few friends who have not had a baby by now. If I allowed my heart to go down the road of comparison, I don’t think I could get out of bed every day. For whatever reason, God has you in the season of life right now for a purpose. Keep your eyes focused on your purpose and your season and let’s choose today to stop playing the comparison game.
- Make a list of blessings. So often, when we are in the midst of a season of waiting, our entire focus is wrapped up in what we don’t have (or the thing we are waiting for). Our attitudes are a direct reflection of our perspective. If we choose to focus on what we don’t have, our attitudes will continually be negative. Instead, I want each of you reading this to get out a piece of paper and start a running list of things that God has blessed you with. Keep it in your wallet or make the list in the notes app on your phone so that throughout the day, you can jot them down as you think of them. When Satan tries to fill your mind with doubt or those feelings of bitterness start to arise, pull out your list of blessings and get on your knees and thank Jesus. I promise your heart will change.
- Get out and serve. As Christians, we are called to put the needs of others before our own. It’s actually the greatest commandment. In times of waiting, I have found that laying down my selfish desires and finding someone else that I can help brings so much joy. It’s really good to feel needed but it also feels good to bless someone else. It takes our minds off of our struggles because our eyes are opened to things that other people are going through. Serving those in need and finding ways to be a blessing to others has brought so much joy to my heart.
- Stop wasting today thinking about tomorrow. I don’t know if you have watched the show Rich in Faith or not, but it’s about a precious couple in Miami, DawnCheré and Rich Wilkerson, who are currently church planting. This is the show’s first season and I have already been so blessed by it. DC and her husband Rich share openly on the show about their 6 year journey with infertility. Talk about a season of waiting! Something that DC said in this past week’s episode spoke directly to my heart. She said “I don’t want to miss one day thinking about the future when I have so many blessings around me.” Wow! What if we all had that attitude? Let’s choose today to live fully in the moment surrounded by all that God has blessed us with.
- Surround yourself with people that hold you accountable and build you up. Let’s be honest. We all need encouragement every now and then. But when you are in a season of waiting and your heart is hurting really badly, you need it more than ever. Choose to surround yourself with people that encourage you, lift you up and help lighten the burden you are carrying. Surround yourself with people who are gentle with your heart, but that also will hold you accountable so that you don’t slip into a dark place.
I hope you will choose today to put some of these practical steps into place because they have been so helpful for me during this time. God is the ultimate healer and He will heal your hearts. There have been many days on this road that I never thought the pieces of my heart would be put back together. But I can stand here confidently today to say that He is able. The scars may still be there but God has given me so much joy, despite the circumstances.
Keep fighting my friends and never give up on Jesus.
Lots of love,